Rant

I have written about bias, letting go, desire, disappointment earlier but never got around to writing about an elephant in the room that is comprised of many parts. I think it is time to introduce you dear reader to one part of the elephant; not the largest but nonetheless a visible part. Desire is a fertile ground disappointment; when one adds bias to the mix it very often results in anger. 

It’s easy to talk and write about letting go the reality is quite different. I don’t think I should repeat the cause of disappointment and bias or the cause of desire but rather it makes sense e to talk about the resultant anger and how to express it without negative consequences. We all get angry and at time it is justified. What is not justified is how we express it. Our biases cause us to direct the anger to something external; it is human nature to deny the real reason. I will however attempt to explain a way that is better in many ways. 

A rant is essentially a way to speak or express anger in an impassioned way. Kind of a contradiction if you think about it. One gets angry because of the passion and to express that passion in an impassioned way is counterintuitive. If it is impassioned then it makes sense to have a good rant and or a healthy venting session with someone you trust to help you get past the mental state of anger. Let it out! In fact, it can be quite healthy if you do it safely. Safely ? It just doesn’t make sense; truth be told it might feel good at the time, but a rant can also get you in lots of trouble, making matters even worse. However when done the right way it is helpful and healthy. One needs to take into account the following items. 

The right person - When you need to vent, do it with someone you trust. You don't want your opinions to be public knowledge, and you also aren't in a position to really change the circumstances. So talk with someone who won't repeat what you say or how you say it. Ideally, pick someone who is objective and will just listen.

Let it out - This is one chance to express your point of view, with whatever language you choose. You can scream, curse and gesture all you want -- and indeed you should. The main idea is to express your feelings and not to find  solution to the why and how of the feeling. It helps if you express it to the right person because there will never be any judgement while you are expressing. 

Stay private - a rant cannot be done with more people listening in. It has to be a one to one expression. Any deviation from this will only get you in to trouble. 

Work wise I know who I can have this conversation with and to an extent I know also who I could do this with when the topic is of a personal nature. I had a good rant this evening on something work related. When was it that you got a chance to safely express your anger ? 

C